Relationship Minute: Your 2020 Vision

Happy new year! Resolution-making and change may be on your mind this time of year. As the chaos of the holiday season subsides, take a moment to think about what shared meaning you would like to create in your relationship this year.

Talk about your goals together.

What would you like to accomplish as an individual this year? How can you support each other in those dreams?

What would you like to accomplish together?

Focus on what is truly meaningful for you, and what is realistic.

What rituals or regular moments of connection would you like to implement together? What would you like to keep doing?

When couples share a dream or vision for their future, the inevitable ups and downs of any relationship are more manageable. Even when the sea gets choppy, there’s comfort in knowing where you’re going and that everyone is on board.

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The Relationship Minute from The Gottman Institute, dated 1 January 2020. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning. 

5 Things Successful People Do Before Breakfast

From by Amanda Green

Being successful in life is more than just having a good career and money in the bank. Successful people have a higher quality of life and live happier, more fulfilled lives. Most people wish to be successful in life, but that can be easier said than done. It is a well-known fact, however, that successful people do certain things differently than unsuccessful people.

Here are five things successful people do before breakfast:

1. Wake Early

Starting the day early, at 5:00 AM or 6:00 AM, is a habit successful people follow every day. While it is one of the greatest challenges you will face in your journey of self-development, it is also one of the most rewarding. Waking early gives you time to start the day off right, taking time to get out of bed, shower, and embrace the day gradually, rather than rushing off to work at the last minute. Waking early also suggests that you are happy with your life and dedicated to personal growth.

2. Exercise

Setting a goal of exercising multiple times a week makes it easy to say, “I will do it tomorrow.” Successful people exercise every morning. Start your day off with a relaxing, invigorating session of yoga or Pilates to ensure that you are ready to embrace success.

3. Review and Rewrite Goals

Successful people are great at making and keeping goals. You should make an effort to read your list of long term and short term goals every day. Whether you have short term goals like keeping up with job performance, or long term goals like obtaining a degree, reviewing your goals can help keep you on track.

4. Set a Mentality

Whether you choose to do so by listening to inspirational audio books or visualizing the day ahead, setting a mentality is an important part of a successful person’s day. Visualizing the day ahead can prepare your mind for the tasks and challenges of the day.

5. Read the News

Successful people are people who have a good understanding of what is happening in their community and the world around them. Not only does this prepare you for the day ahead, but it keeps you up to date so you can carry on a conversation about current events as well.

Successful people do a lot of things before breakfast to help them stay on track with their goals.

By waking early, exercising, keeping your goals, setting a mentality, and reading the news, you, too, can be successful.