Relationship Minute: Un-Valentine’s Day

The term “un-birthday” was coined by Lewis Carrol in Through the Looking Glass.

It’s a day that’s celebrated on any or all of the 364 days on which its not the person’s birthday.

Now, statistics prove, prove that you’ve one birthday
Imagine, just one birthday every year
Ah, but there are three hundred and sixty four un-birthdays!
Precisely why we’re gathered here to cheer

So by all means, celebrate Valentine’s Day today. Do something meaningful with your partner.

But celebrate the other 364 Un-Valentine’s Days, too.

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The Relationship Minute From The Gottman Institute, dated 14 February 2019. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning. 

Relationship Minute: Choose commitment

In a relationship, commitment is a choice we make every single day, over and over again.

We choose it when we’re tired and overworked and stressed.We choose it no matter what attractive person crosses our path.

We choose it every time our partner makes a bid for attention and we put down our book, or look away from the TV, or up from our phone to acknowledge their importance in our life.

When we make our relationship a priority by showing that it’s a priority, we build trust and demonstrate our loyalty.

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The Relationship Minute From The Gottman Institute, dated 29 January 2019. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning. 

Marriage Minute: The story of Alice in Wonderland

As the story goes, Alice sees a very unusual rabbit go down a hole, and she jumps in with two feet. She has no idea what this journey is going to be and Wonderland isn’t really all that great of a place.

There’s scary things, challenging things, and things that are also interesting and fascinating. It’s an adventure, and Alice doesn’t know what’s in store for her, but she jumps in anyway.

Alice doesn’t hesitate or think maybe a better rabbit will come along tomorrow.

She doesn’t look back and doesn’t question the adventure she’s chosen.

That’s commitment.

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The Marriage Minute From The Gottman Institute, dated 28 August 2018. You can sign up here to get The Marriage Minute delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.