Marriage Minute: The magic relationship ratio

After researching thousands of couples for decades, The Gottman Institute discovered a number of facts about successful relationships. But one important fact stands out among the rest:

The magic relationship ratio is 5:1.

Five to one of what? Simply put, successful and lasting relationships must have a ratio of five positive interactions for every single negative interaction, and it is the difference between the “masters” and “disasters” of relationships.

In other words, disasters fall below 5:1, but masters keep their positive to negative ratio of interactions at 5:1 or above, and sometimes even as high as 20:1!

Fortunately, most positive interactions in relationships are small, everyday gestures of kindness, affection, and appreciation. If you’re worried that you’re not hitting 5:1, try creating some positive, daily rituals of connection in your relationship.

To learn more, click here to watch Dr. John Gottman explain the 5:1 ratio.

Additional reading:


The Marriage Minute From The Gottman Institute, dated 10 May 2018. You can sign up here to get The Marriage Minute delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning. 

Spaces Still Available for Spouse Appreciation Glass Blowing Event – 12 May

In collaboration with Outdoor Recreation, we have organized a glass blowing experience for our spouses in honor of Military Spouse Appreciation Day. Spaces are extremely limited, as there are only 13 spots remaining!

Out of the original 25 spaces, we have only filled 12. Please call 605-385-4663 to reserve yours ASAP and see below for additional information! Thank you to ALL of the Ellsworth AFB spouses, you are appreciated!

Who: All EAFB military spouses

What: FREE glass blowing lesson and your choice of a masterpiece to create, along with a keepsake from the artist.

When: 12 May 18, 11:30 AM – 5:00 PM, Meeting at Outdoor Rec parking lot on Saturday, 12 May, at 11:30 AM, for a departure around 12:00 PM. The event/class will be held from 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM with departure at 4:00 PM, for an arrival back at Ellsworth around 5:00 PM. (Free transportation is provided).

Where: Mind Blown Glass Blowing Studio in Deadwood, SD

Why: To appreciate our spouses

Spouse Appreciation Glass Blowing Event – 12 May

In collaboration with Outdoor Recreation, we have organized a glass blowing experience for our spouses in honor of Military Spouse Appreciation Day. Spaces are extremely limited, as there are only 25 spots!

The first 25 spouses to call the Airman and Family Readiness Center TODAY, Wednesday, 2 May 2018, will get a spot. Please call 605-385-4663 to reserve yours ASAP and see below for additional information! Thank you to ALL of the Ellsworth AFB spouses, you are appreciated!

Who: All EAFB military spouses

What: FREE glass blowing lesson and your choice of a masterpiece to create, along with a keepsake from the artist.

When: 12 May 18, 11:30 AM – 5:00 PM, Meeting at Outdoor Rec parking lot on Saturday, 12 May, at 11:30 AM, for a departure around 12:00 PM. The event/class will be held from 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM with departure at 4:00 PM, for an arrival back at Ellsworth around 5:00 PM. (Free transportation is provided).

Where: Mind Blown Glass Blowing Studio in Deadwood, SD

Why: To appreciate our spouses

Vouchers for Library Cards

On April 12th, we provided Rapid City Public Library Card Vouchers to military members and their families that live in counties other than Pennington County. Upon activation the library cards are valid for 1 year at the Rapid City Public Library and the best part is that you don’t have to pay for the card as a resident of another county.

We only had 18 families take advantage of this opportunity. We still have 93 vouchers remaining. If you are a military member/family that does not live in Pennington County, you can still stop by the Airman & Family Readiness Center to pick-up a voucher while supplies last.

What are you doing with your tax return?

Hopefully you are not like Curt and putting your 2017 Tax Return to good use. What about paying off or paying down bills? Putting money away for emergency savings, or towards your retirement?

If you received a large return this year, maybe consider changing your Federal withholding and make the money available to you to use throughout the year or increase your TSP contribution.

Want help? Visit us here at your Airman & Family Readiness Center.