From MilitaryOneSource.com BlogBrigade:
I saw an awesome t-shirt the other day that summed up my friendship philosophy: Your vibe attracts your tribe. Isn’t that the truth? I have an amazing group of friends who I trust with my whole heart. But friendships haven’t always been easy for me, especially as a new military spouse. Making friends as an adult under any circumstances can be tough. Making friends when you are away from home can be even harder. But having a crew of friends you can count on is one of the things that has helped me most on my military journey.
When I was a young military spouse in my early 20s, living on an installation for the first time, life was lonely. My husband was working a lot and I didn’t have many friends that I kept in touch with after high school. I remember our first tour well. It was the first time I’d ever met someone from another state, much less the other side of the world. I was being exposed to people from different backgrounds and cultures with different value systems and parenting styles. It didn’t take me long to learn that the military spouse connection alone would not be enough to sustain a lasting friendship. I’d meet a spouse and we’d hit it off, but our friendship would fade, sometimes for obvious reasons and others with no explanation at all. I wish back then that someone would have told me that it was okay to let friendships go if they didn’t feel right. Now that I’m older and I have good, caring, amazing friends, I would tell myself this:
- Don’t become someone’s enabler. Every military spouse needs a helping hand from time to time. An emergency sitter, a can of cream of mushroom soup, or a ride to the clinic. But if crisis seems to follow someone around like a lost puppy, that might not be a good relationship for you. Rescue friends are emotionally exhausting and take away valuable time from healthy relationships. It’s okay to help someone out in a time of need, but don’t become a savior for someone who constantly needs rescuing.
- Find a mutual connection. People get busy. We don’t always return calls, social media messages, or texts, and not all of us are planners. But if you’re always the person reaching out and trying to make plans, the friendship might not be reciprocated by the other person. You are worth a phone call. Don’t settle for less.
- Avoid gossip. If someone is gossiping to you about someone else, they most likely are talking about you when you aren’t around. Unless you enjoy being the topic of other people’s conversation, avoid people who talk about other people’s business. If someone shares something with you, even if they don’t say, “this is a secret,” don’t talk about it with someone else.
- Embrace people who embrace this life. It’s hard living away from home and family. For many of us, life in the military is a shock to our system – we aren’t used to the long hours, protocols and customs – but it’s much easier to embrace military life when you surround yourself with other families who enjoy it. As spouses, we are a part of military culture because we chose to marry and build a life with our service member. Oftentimes their desire to serve our country can be hard on us. But their commitment runs deep, just like our love for them. Surround yourself with people who have strong marriages and who are living their best MilLife.
- Remember you are the company you keep. The qualities you look for in other military spouses will be easier to spot if you possess them yourself.
Over the past 20 years, I have met hundreds of military spouses. We share a camaraderie that can’t be matched, but being a fellow military spouse is not enough to sustain a friendship. Finding your special few takes patience – it’s okay to let people come into and fade out of your life. The best people are the ones you can be your authentic self with. Hold onto those people, treasure them, love them and nurture those relationships. Your tribe is out there – you just need to build it, one healthy relationship at a time.
It is almost that time again! The 2017 Back to School Round Up Event will be held on August 26th, 2017, from 1-3pm, at the PRIDE Hangar.
Please come out and join us for educational resources, FREE school supplies (while supplies last) provided by Operation Home Front for the first 300 children, Dahl art center art projects, a photo booth, climbing wall, bouncy castles, sensory tables, a planetarium dome, and a petting zoo. There will also be prize drawings @ 2:45pm for different age groups.
This event is hosted by the 28 FSS Airman and Family Readiness Flight and Child and Youth Services Flight.
The 77th Annual Sturgis Motorcycle Rally officially starts today, Friday, August 4th, and runs through Sunday, August 13th. If you haven’t already noticed increased traffic on I-90 yet, you will as Rally goers begin pouring into the Black Hills region.
Last year the rally had an estimated attendance of 463,412. Even if you aren’t going up to Sturgis you will be affected by the Rally. Tourist sites from the Badlands to Devil’s Tower and throughout the Black Hills, as well as restaurants, bars, or anything you think of as entertainment will be packed. HAVE PATIENCE!
The Rally is the experience of a lifetime. Visiting exhibitors can show you anything and everything you’d want or need to dress you up or dress up your bike. Or demo virtually every kind of bike on the market – custom, V-Twin or metric. In addition to the bikes there are concerts, races and bike shows, five blocks of Sturgis’s Main Street (bikes-only), organized rides, and custom legends.
If you are new to the area or have never gone to the Rally, check it out, but be prepared for traffic and a lot of people.
Here are a few tips to survive the Rally:
- If you are going, have a plan. (Have a designated driver!)
- There are no open containers allowed in Sturgis
- Pay attention to the signs that say NO PARKING and the curbs that are painted yellow. If you park by these you will be towed and walking to the impound yard to pay to get your ride back.
- Look out for motorcycles, not all of them are looking out for you
- Pay attention to speed limits and additional stop signs in all areas
- Again, HAVE PATIENCE!
South Dakota Motorcycle Driving Laws (Source: South Dakota Rides)
- No person may operate a motorcycle more than two abreast in a single lane. The operator of a motorcycle may not overtake and pass in the same lane occupied by the vehicle being overtaken.
- Every motorcycle must be equipped with at least one but no more than two headlamps..
- All persons under the age of 18 must wear motorcycle safety helmets that are approved by the South Dakota Department of Transportation.
- A person riding in an enclosed cab attached to a motorcycle does not have to wear a safety helmet.
- A motorcycle operator must wear an eye protective device unless the motorcycle is equipped with a windscreen of sufficient height and design that protects the motorcycle operator. When headlights are required to be on, a motorcycle operator cannot wear protective eye devices that are tinted or shaded to reduce the light transmission of the device below 35 percent.
- Motorcycles must have at least one tail lamp, which when lighted emits a red light visible for a distance of 500 feet.
- Noise Limits: Every motorcycle must at all times be equipped with a muffler in good working order and in constant operation to prevent excessive or unusual noise.
What will bad behavior cost you? (also factor in costs to your career)
Common City Violations
- Careless Driving – $110
- City Parking Violations – $10
- City Trespassing/Camping in the Street – $130
- Deposit of Filth in Public Place – $105
- Disorderly Conduct – $130
- Dog Running at Large (1st off.) – $75
- Driving on Bike Path/Sidewalk – $130
- Exhibition Driving – $85
- Indecent Exposure – $130
- Open Container In Public -$80
- Parking in Handicapped Zone – $100
- Stop Light/Stop Sign Violation – $110
- Truck Routes & Use of Streets by Trucks – $110
- U-turn Prohibited – $85
- Wrong Way on One Way Street -$110
- Unlawful to Obstruct Streets/Selling on the Street – $105
Common State Motorcycle Violations
- Cyclist Overtaking and Passing M/V in same lane – $120
- Eye Protection Required – $ 25
- Helmet Required under Age 18 – $120
- Illegal Handlebar Height – $25
- Illegal Motor Cycle Exhaust – $25
- Operation Without Motorcycle Endorsement – $120
Common State Law Violations
- Furnishing Alcohol to Minor 18-21 – Court Appearance Req.
- Open Container in Motor Vehicle – $120
- Possess of Controlled Substance – Custody Arrest
- Possess of Drug Paraphernalia – $270
- Possess of Marijuana – Custody Arrest
- Possess of Substances for High Abuse (Distribution) – Custody Arrest
- Underage Alcohol Purchase/Possession/Consumption – Court Appearance Req.
- Underage Purchase/Possession/Consumption of Cigarettes – $95
- Cancelled License – $140
- No Driver License – $120
- Revoked License – Custody Arrest
- Suspended License – $270
- Violation of License Restrictions – $120
It’s that time again, preparing for the new school year! We will be holding our annual Back to School Round Up Event on 27 August 2016 from 1:00-3:00 PM at the PRIDE hangar.
There will be free backpacks and school supplies offered through the Operation Homefront Program, art activities from the Dahl art center (Pokémon art and a sidewalk chalk demonstration), a petting zoo/farm, a magician, face painting, photo booth, jumpy castles, rock wall, sensory tables/games, and many resource tables from various educational resources and universities in the area.
Please come out and bring the family for some fun. Prize drawings will be held at 2:45, must be present to win.
Attention to all Women, Infants, Children (WIC) participants:
The Ellsworth AFB WIC office will be CLOSED from August 24th through September 11th for renovations.
During that time, we will be providing services out of our Rapid City office located at 909 East St. Patrick Street. You can reach Colleen at that office by calling 394-5155 or 394-2516.
For more information on the WIC program, go to: http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/women-infants-and-children-wic