In healthy relationships, partners are curious about each other’s feelings.
They adopt the motto, “When you’re hurt, the world stops and I listen.”
In unhealthy relationships, on the other hand, partners tend to ignore each other’s feelings.
They think to themselves, “I don’t have time for your negativity.”
So the next time your partner is upset, ask them to share their feelings with you—and just listen.
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The Relationship Minute from The Gottman Institute, dated 1 October 2019. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.