“Escape (the Piña Colada Song)” by Rupert Holmes is a beachy, karaoke favorite about a husband and wife who discover they were planning to cheat on each other.
A less catchy title for the song could be, “We Never Talked to Each Other Then Assumed Infidelity Was the Only Solution Rather Than Changing Our Communication Strategy (the Piña Colada Song)”
Their “same old dull routine” didn’t include room for champagne, piña coladas, or midnight lovemaking. Their relationship was, according to the lyrics, “a worn-out recording of a favorite song.”
How do you re-heat things in your relationship before deciding to take out a personal ad (or, more likely, downloading Tinder)? How do you keep monogamy from becoming monotony?
Create opportunities for adventure. Try new things together. Write a personal ad detailing things you’d like to try with your partner (then share it with them, rather than posting it).
Find a new tune. Together.
- The Eight Conversations That Matter Most in Relationships
- 3 Betrayals That Ruin Relationships (That Aren’t Infidelity)
- Desire in a Long-Term Relationship
The Relationship Minute from The Gottman Institute, dated 1 August 2019. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.