Happy marriages are based on a deep friendship. In fact, as Certified Gottman Therapist Cheryl Fraser puts it, a romantic relationship is really just “friendship plus nudity.”
And even though many people will say “I married my best friend,” it’s hard to think about what that looks like in practice.
What does friendship look like to you? How do you choose the people you stay friends with and how do you treat them?
Do the rules you apply to your friends also apply to your partner? For example, you might have a friend who is consistently 15 minutes late any time you get together and that’s “just the way they are.” Do you treat or regard their tardiness differently than your partner’s?
Friendships are a vital supplement to any romantic relationship, but it’s important not to forget to be a friend to your partner.
How can you be a better friend? How can you be the best friend?
The Relationship Minute From The Gottman Institute, dated 6 June 2019. You can sign up here to get it delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.