Kintsugi is the Japanese tradition of restoring broken objects with gold so the cracks are illuminated, not hidden.

The belief is that the pottery is more beautiful for having been broken.

Relationships work the same way.

If we choose to embrace our struggles and repair ourselves with love, we too become more beautiful for having been broken.

This is the essence of resilience.

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The Marriage Minute From The Gottman Institute, dated 15 November 2018. You can sign up here to get The Marriage Minute delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.