We all have emotional triggers. When those buttons are pushed, we’re reminded of a memory or situation from our past.

Working on understanding each other’s triggers is one of the most important things you can do in your relationship.

Learn the stories behind your partner’s triggers to understand where they’re coming from.

With this knowledge, you can identify which behaviors to avoid, so that the two of you don’t accidentally set each other off.

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The Marriage Minute From The Gottman Institute, dated 23 October 2018. You can sign up here to get The Marriage Minute delivered to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday morning.